People tell me I haven’t missed anything at all by never really dating someone I hadn’t known rather well. The fact is that I’ve never dated a stranger, except for a blind date that was sprung on me without my knowledge when I visited an out-of-town cousin. It was a double date at that, and I was exclusively seeing someone else, which I mentioned to my blind date right away.
I did go on one other date in college with a girl from my hometown I didn’t know well, but we had had a couple of long conversations, and I could tell she was interested. Plus, we had a host of mutual friends, so it wasn’t as if we needed to strain to find something to talk about.
My late wife Judy Birdsong and I had worked together for months in a bar before we started seeing each other, so we were very comfortable together. It wasn’t like meeting a stranger for coffee to see how you got along.
Similarly, my wife Caroline and I had been friends and members of the same book club for five years before we started our romance, so ditto.
So the long and short of it is that I’ve never created a dating profile for eHarmony or any of the other dating platforms, which no doubt is a good thing because I’ve never really known anyone who has successfully cultivated a lasting relationship through electronic dating (or whatever you call it).
I guess, you need to market yourself, to choose a flattering image, and then to present your personality in a way that would make a congenial spirit willing to devote a few hours in your company.
As a thought experiment, I thought I’d create a theoretical dating profile, just to see what it would be like.
So I filled out this dating profile generator I found on-line. It asks you questions, you supply answers, and it creates an introductory essay.
Here’s what it came up with.
Good day ladies!
I’m a learned sort of gentleman, who likes nothing more than drinking with the right woman.
The first thing people usually notice about me is my ironic personality, closly (sic) followed by my smashing legs. I am not one of those fake people who pretends not to notice their (sic) own qualities. My legs and ears are top notch. These gems of honesty are just part of the learned person I am.
I work as a retired teacher, helping students. This allows me to exercise my skills: eloquence and humor. I would like to tell you about the time I met Dizzy Gillespie, which is true, but it’s important to me that you know I’m honest, so I’ll save the wilder parts of my life for another time.
My life goals include:
- Meet Eric Idle
- Become the best retired teacher I can be
- Help all the students in the world
If you’re the right woman for me, you’ll be intelligent and kind. You won’t be afraid to skinny dip and will have a healthy respect for integrity.
My ideal date would involve writing in Folly Beach with a tall woman by my side. While we’re there, I compliment your proportional face.
Honesty and openness are the most important qualities in a relationship. I will be honest with you, if you will be honest with me. I will never hit on your best friend whilst (sic) you’re visiting a sick relative, never text my ex behind your back while you’re asleep, never post naked photos of you on Facebook. That’s just the kind of gentleman I am.
A nod’s as good as a wink to a blind bat, eh?
I urge you, get in touch,
As the youngsters say, OMG! Believe it or not, I chose “earnest” as the type of profile I wanted.
 From its diction, I’m pretty sure this thing originated in the UK.
 Work by not making lesson plans, not grading papers, not teaching classes, not attending faulty meetings.
 By remaining retired.